My Issues with Common Core Curriculums

Common Core

It’s a phrase that most parents I know have come to dread.

I understand that it’s just a level of standards that they children need to learn by the end of the year, and how the teachers teach it is their discretion.

However…  The programs that appear to have been made available to the teachers are, in my honest opinion, ridiculous.

I’m annoyed at the fact that my daughters rarely come home with homework.  They can’t build a study routine when they don’t have studying to do.  We limit screen time, so these practice websites are not my top choice.  I purchased math workbooks to supplement, but it’s not enough.  And when they do come home with homework, we are overwhelmed with questions, because it’s a printed page, and there is no text-book to help them find the answers.

My biggest critique is of this math program; it doesn’t cater to my eldest daughter’s learning style.  2+2=4.  It always will.  She hates having to learn all these other devices to come up with the same answer.   And the terminology they want the kids to learn.  It’s all “grouping;” not carrying over or borrowing.  If you want to make it make sense, use terms that a kid will understand.

My eldest is learning multiplication now.  I don’t remember learning it until the fourth grade, she’s in third.  But some of the stuff she’s brought home looks like algebra, which isn’t a bad thing, necessarily.  But the problems are written poorly:

2 x 2 + 2 = __

So, does anyone see the problem with this question?

(2 x 2) + 2  = 6

2 x (2 + 2)  = 8

So which is it that they’re asking for?  I had her write it both ways… A week later, I haven’t seen the graded assignment, so I don’t know which was the answer they were looking for.

Then we get things like this:

This is a practice test.  There is no explanation that each X=1 “creature.”  Then, what if the child doesn’t know that an ant has 6 legs or the spider has 8 legs, because they haven’t covered insects in science.

For my husband to see homework like this and say “Maybe it is time to look into private school,” it’s serious.

I know from the parent-teacher conferences a few months ago that their teachers aren’t happy with this curriculum, but don’t mind the standards.  Both my girls have exhibited exceptionally high standardized test scores (which is what schools ALL ABOUT, right?) and read/comprehend 2 grade levels above where they are.

But they are bored; not feeling challenged, but confused by the “silly work.”

Seriously, though… homeschooling and private school are starting to look a lot better now…

Dr. PetPlay is in the House

We recently got a few new iPad games for our kids, that had been free during the Christmas Season.

Dr. PetPlay was one of these games (usually $2.99).

My middle child loves animals (especially cats) and would like to be a vet when she grows up.  So this game was PERFECT for her.  And her enormous collection of stuffed animals made for a full waiting room.

The kids have spent their days being snowed in taking care of their animals.  I was doing some work when I heard an awful cry coming from “The Doctor’s Office.”  It was my son.  And his beloved puppy Shadow (named after my parent’s dog) had not one, but two broken legs!  Thank you creators of Dr. PetPlay for that image for my son.

The tears on his face were real, and the sadness in his voice.  But Dr. Emmalee told him that with some band aids and rest, puppy would be all better.

We’ve recently been bombarded with animals who needed homes, temporary and permanent.  After the snowstorm left an animal shelter without heat, my heart broke and I wanted to help.  But I also know the kids wouldn’t want to give the animal back, and we’re not really in a place to be taking in any animals, especially cats or untrained puppies.

So we’ll continue on with the stuffed animals, and visiting adopt-a-thons, waiting for that time when a pet will be a part of our family…. many, many years from now.

Tummy Aches Return

In the past, we’d dealt with tummy troubles for our eldest.  Now it’s my middle child’s turn.

E has been having tummy issues for months, so after discovered the pattern of right after every meal, we cut everything out and went vegan and gluten-free for a few weeks.  We slowly added everything back, and found the culprit: dairy.

So we invested in the lactose pills for her to take at meal times, and started giving her pro-biotic pills daily.  As long as she takes her meds, she’s fine.  For the most part, the school has been accommodating to her, giving her dairy free options.  But in the case of snacks from classmates, she’s often needing reminders to take a pill before she eats it – even dairy in baked goods upset her tummy.

I’ve been researching natural ways to help her deal with it, even been given some seemingly contradictory advice.  But the consensus is to just ELIMINATE all dairy for 3 to 6 months, then introduce it.

That means soy/almond milk alternatives, which can be pretty pricy.  She was mostly upset about not being able to have sour cream on her tacos… her favorite part.

Any other Lactose Free families out there with suggestions for me?

First Published 1/14/14

Snomageddon 2014

Well, 2014 has certainly been fun!

Living in the midwest, particularly our part of the midwest, snow can be hit or miss.  We always seem to be on the cusp of any snow storm that has potential to close the county.

Not this year!

Winter Storms Henry and Ion shut us in, even giving the kids a few extra days off of school from Christmas/Winter break.  The hardest part is dealing with the temperatures: The kids WANT to go play in the now, but it’s -7 degrees at 1:00 in the afternoon: not really happening.

All bundled up for 5 minutes of play

Snow has kept them in for the most of the past 2 weeks, and they’re getting stir crazy in the house.  Wasn’t it just a couple of weeks ago when we could go for a walk?  Now we can’t even step outside the house.

It was so cold today that we tried the whole “toss boiling water into the air to make snow” thing.  Yup, it totally worked.  And it was awesome!

The girls were able to get ahead on their bible quizzing verses, and our son is enjoying all the toys he got for Christmas. But they really miss their friends and having someone other than their sibling to play with.

My husband had shown them the infamous “Bread and Milk” YouTube videos, and our theatrical children wanted to make their own.

And so, we did.

 

We were in fact running low on milk, but the Level 3 Emergency that we were under (making it illegal to be on the roads) was going to be lifted soon.

Regardless, the kids had a blast making this, and I crack up every time I see my son on the screen.

Penny Pinching

I didn’t have any real “New Years Resolutions” this year.  Something always happens and I fail.

Especially now with as sick as I’ve been, I’m not going to try anything too crazy.  I’d say “get healthier,” but my doctor doesn’t care what I eat or drink at this point, as long as I can keep it down.

With the birth of our 4th child coming however, I really want to try to be more frugal this year.

I coupon occasionally, when it’s products that we’d regularly use.  I don’t do the ‘extreme coupon-ing’ for major stocking up; I don’t buy 12 newspapers and the thought of ordering coupons by mail is weird to be, but some people swear by it.   But I love reading coupons blogs to see what kind of deals I can get, if I could manage to get my hand on THAT many coupons…

Me and the Coupon Queen herself, Joni Meyer-Crothers

at her book signing (FreeTastesGood.com)

I’ve started researching to make my own cleaning and beauty supplies… some other DIY things to save money.  

We thought about cloth diapers for the baby, but not sure how the childcare situation will be yet long-term, and not everyone is a fan of cloth diapers.

I’m taking the pants that my daughters, which they had received from my cousins, and have grown to tall for (thank you elastic adjusted waistbands!) and turning them into skirts.  I don’t have a wide variety of Maternity clothes, but I’ve found patterns to make my own… the catch is finding the energy to do it…

I know many moms who have started their own side businesses – crafts, skin care, etc.  But I’m not that crafty and you have to spend money and make a ton of products in hoping to sell a few.

I’ve tried to sit through those survey sites, too, but I never seem to qualify, so it’s almost a waste of my time…

I have a Sam’s Club Membership, I’d like to start doing more bulk meal preparations, but again, a lot of it has to do with time and energy…

So at this point, I’m just trying to cut as many corners as I can, trying to set money aside for things like Bible Quiz trips, and maternity leave.

What money-saving tips are you using?  Any suggestions for me?

First Published 1/3/14

Surviving my first year with P.O.T.S.

My New Year’s resolution for 2013 was to eat healthier and run a 5k.    Who would’ve thought cutting out french fries and soda would darn near kill me….

I’d been diagnosed with NCS after the birth of my daughter Samantha in 2005.  I’d been exhibiting symptoms for YEARS, but because they came and went, and seemed ‘unrealistic’ to my childhood pediatrician, it was untreated.

I’d spent a few years taking Toporol and a variety of Beta Blockers, all of which were absolutely awful, and actually caused some pretty severe anxiety issues.  One morning I woke up and decided that I wasn’t going to allow the headaches and dizzy spells control my life, and I threw my pills away, in Jesus Name!

I’d been symptom free for about 3 years, a few bad days here and there, but nothing like it had been.  Then Pastor called for a church-wide Daniel Fast, and I thought it was a perfect time for me to cut my yucky soda habit.

And no, I’m not exaggerating when I say it almost killed me – started having my first ‘episode’ (considered by my neurologist to be seizures) while driving.  Not good, but I was able to pull over before things really got dark. 

I didn’t really realize what was going on.  I did a 48 hour detox water drink (water, cucumbers, lemon and mint), to help cleanse out the chemicals in my body.  It was supposed to last a week, but I couldn’t handle more than 2 days.

I switched to just water, no juice and NO SODA and still felt really dehydrated, like I was voiding more than I was taking in, when I knew I was drinking at least 70 oz each day.  Then other weird symptoms started to develop.  My word would slur, or I’d use the wrong word completely.  I’d lose focus, and would be extremely exhausted.  All this within a 1 week period.  I went to my doctor (who was a new doctor, fresh out of med school), who was testing me for diabetes, everything came back normal.

So I went to Facebook to lament.  I’m thankful I did, because a few high school classmates of mine had also recently experienced similar symptoms and had been given a diagnosis of POTS.  So I looked it up.  Sure enough, everything I’d been experiencing was right there.  So I printed out the information I found and brought it to my next appointment.  She’d heard of POTS, but was told in one lecture that covered it, that she’d likely never see a case.

As it happens, she’d had a patient come in earlier that day who also had already been diagnosed with POTS, and was picking her brain about her condition because her case reminded me a lot like mine.  My doctor told me that the brain fog and word jumbles where this other patients biggest hurdle, as she was a university professor.

The more research I did, the more people I spoke with, I realized that this was going to be another fun battle.  I needed to maintain my BP or the seizure would start again (Gotta love when the Doctor tells you to add salt and caffeine to your diet) and I needed to keep my stress levels low (Did I mention I have 3 kids?).

We tried some meds but I hated them.  The Beta blockers gave me anxieties again, and the BP meds made me exhausted.  I phased them out and trusted in Healing, because medications were not the answer.  I adjusted my diet, added salt (I honestly don’t use salt in my cooking) and enjoyed my tea and soda.  I also forced myself to drink more sports drinks (the zero calorie ones, which are gross, in my honest opinion).

Now that I’m pregnant, it’s brought on all kinds of new experiences… (See my other blog Sociably Surviving Hyperemesis).

I still have bad days, and I’ve learned from others with POTS and from experience what triggers can be such as antibiotics and dehydration.  I may have to deal with this condition from time to time, but I’m not going to ever let it control me.

 

Body Images

Being a woman is tough… it’s absolutely awful at times.

Women can be mean and judgmental… don’t deny it, we try not to be, but we all make at least one mean comment in our lives.

There aren’t many women who portray themselves as the positive role model that I’d want for my daughters.  So that’s who I’ve got to become.  But who do I look up to?

So many women look to Hollywood as to what they should be like.  Hollywood is a lie.  When I read this recent article about Jennifer Lawrence and airbrushing, I was sick to my stomach.  She’s gorgeous, and even with the makeup on, they still felt the need to paint her face more and make her look skinnier.  It made me sad, and yet I was glad to know she didn’t appreciate it either.

I’m the first to admit that I’m fairly plain… I hate make-up, but use it for “special occasions.”  I had a hormone imbalance that caused acne in my adulthood that no product would remedy.  I don’t have the money to get my hair done every other month, and my mousey brown hair is dull.  I have health issues preventing me from being as athletic as I use to be; I’ll never have the skinny chicken legs I’d always wished I had. I’ve got stretch marks and hips from carrying 3, now 4, babies.

And you know what, I’m OK with that.  Will I be parading around in a 2-piece bathing suit?  No.  I’m too modest for that, my body is mine and it’s private.  I’m not going to be ashamed of the body and face that I have, but I’m going to take care of it.  Will I go on crazy diets to be a size 2?  Probably not.  But I’ll eat right, drink my protein shakes and take my kids for walks and on bike rides.

While I do all these things, to show my girls who a real woman is, I can’t be the only one.  I want their teachers, their baby sitters, their friends’ moms, and their friends, to also be confident in themselves.  While I show them daily who I am in my, my husband’s, and in God’s eyes, I pray that the other women in their lives will also look away from what ‘popular culture’ is telling them is appropriate, and look to God for what is right.

We are made in His image, and we should take care of the body we’ve been given, but we shouldn’t be looking to gross exaggerations of what some Hollywood photographer thinks a beautiful woman is.

Me, all dolled up

Me, on a normal day

First Published 12/20/13

Surviving Our First Bible Quizzing Season

After 9 months, countless hours of study time, 9 state and regional tournaments, and finally JBQ Nationals, the Junior Bible Quiz (beginner division) season is over.

My Bella Samantha, who only just turned 8, accomplished more this year than many thought she could.  Did she win a lot of individual trophies – no.  Did that disappoint her – yes.

But she’s taking away so much more than a few pieces of hardware from this season:

First,  she memorized 191 verses, 13 chapters of Psalms.  How many kid, let alone adults, can say that?

Probably the most important thing that came out of it all: in February, she was filled with the Spirit of God, and in March Baptized in His Name!

I could stop listing right now, and that would be enough for me.

This year, she made new friends.  To many, she may seem outgoing, but she’s really quite shy.  It was nice to see her making friends at the National competition, knowing they’d probably compete against each other.  And when it was done, they hugged and said “See you next year”.

I watched her confidence grow this year.  Not to say that she still didn’t get shaken and made mistakes, but she’s learning to just move past it.

We watcher her handle loss like a champ.  Whether a horrible landslide defeat or a tight match, she made me so proud to watch her walk away with a smile and be thankful for the questions she did answer, or learn from the ones she got wrong.

We saw her become a much better student, understanding concepts quicker than before.  Even testing into a 5th grade level in one area of study, while she’s only in the 2nd grade.

I’m so thankful for the coaches, Gary, Rachel and Naomi, for teaching and encouraging her.  To her teammates Ashlyn and LJ, the Junior Team Jadon and Caelyn and all the families: it’s been a great season, and we were all truly blessed.

Only 3 months until next season starts, she already wants to get started studying.  I told her to enjoy the rest of her summer!  Next season Emmalee will be on her team, and new challenges will be faced.  Emma is even more shy than Samantha, but boy is she a little spitfire…

Team Toledo Juniors and Beginners

 

Team Toledo Beginners, 13th Place JBQ Nationals

Go Cart Fun for the team and families

The Season is OVER!  Time to Celebrate!

 

I hit “search” and couldn’t find you…

While reading the June issue of ‘Inc.’ Magazine, I came across the “Crunching The Numbers” feature.  A few of the statistics really stood out to me.

In 2009, only 27% of small businesses had a Facebook Fanpage.  In 2010, this number grew to 41%.  It seems more and more pages are being created every day.  But the problem is: how are people finding these pages?

It’s hard enough for businesses to get their websites found, and it’s fairly well accepted that to increase traffic to your website you need to have a presence elsewhere.  In today’s internet savvy society, while we want to believe that just having a website is enough, that someone enters what they want into their favorite search engine and we’ll be found.

GET THAT IMAGE OUT OF YOUR HEAD!

 You are competing, not only with your competitor down the street, but across town, in the next county, the next state and across the world.  Seriously.  If there is a business that could possibly be doing business remotely where you are physically located, they are seeking out your current and potential customers.

Google Ads and Search Engine Optimization are paid services being employed by your competition.  Have you checked out their social media profile… Do they have a Facebook or Twitter?  Are they up-to-date with it? Are they interacting with their fans/followers?  Do they have images of their product/services? Do they link back to their website?

 Whether the answer is ‘yes’ or ‘no’, YOU need to be doing the exact same thing (but better, and local)!

Your social media should be an extension of your website, and your website should be an extension of you.

Take a look at your website – do you know what it’s doing for you? does it represent who you are and what you do? do you know where you come up in a search?

Now look at your social networks – how many fans/followers do you have? are you giving them information? are they interacting? do you use location marketing?

I by no means can help you build your website, but I know several AMAZING website designers/developers that I can put you in contact with.  And I’m not saying that you need to hire me to do your social networking… not every business needs me, but everyone business needs someone to do it properly!  I encourage you, take some time and really look at your internet presence, is it who and what you want it to be.  Sociably Cindy is available for training, assessments, and maintenance.

First published 1/19/2012

Tummy aches that won’t go away…

“Mommy… I have a tummy ache” is heard more in my house that anything else.

It’s tough, because there really isn’t ANYTHING that I can do.

S has been dealing with it for almost a year.  We honestly thought she was making it up, because she didn’t exhibit any tummy troubles.  We thought it was because she was nervous about something, or that she was having problems at school, or just wanted a bit more attention.

J has been dealing with it since Christmas.  We all got the flu around the same time, but both J and Steve had it the longest.  Steve was diagnosed with colitis, and even though the doctor didn’t say that’s what J had, the symptoms were the same, so we’ll run with it.  And we knew that it wasn’t just going to go away over night, it would be a small battle.  So every few weeks, a fever would pop up, keeping him home from school, and his tummy would hurt.

S was different.  The pediatrician told us to cut out dairy for a week, she assumed it was Lactose intolerance.  So we tried it.  Nothing changed.  We tried gluten-free, and it improved a bit, but the minute she had a PB&J, the tummy aches were back.  It was hard for me because I knew what she needed, but it seemed that everyone around me thought I was making it up.

Then her behavior started to change, she started losing her focus.  She was still the same girl, but easily distracted.  She couldn’t stay focused at her soccer games, and couldn’t run because her tummy hurt.  I knew it was time to put my foot down, and this time Steve was 110% behind me.

So we cut it ALL out: no dairy, no gluten, no sugar, no artificial colors.  All she’s eating is vegetables, rice, beans and meat.  It’s starting to get a little boring for lunches – salad every day.   And you can only prepare chicken so many ways….  But within a week, she began to improve.  She could sit and do her homework without being easily distracted; she was sleeping better and not waking up tired; she was able to memorize her piano recital songs; she’s running and riding her bike faster too.

We occasionally ride bikes to school.  It’s about a mile and a half, and was taking us 15-20 minutes to get to school.  I’d have to slow down and wait for her.  Last week, we did it in 10 minutes, and I had to keep up with her!

The thing that I’m finding to be the hard part is keeping her from eating the foods she shouldn’t when I’m not around.  Even if I remind her right before I leave her, and remind the adults, she’s still a kid and doesn’t want to be excluded.  I was so proud of her last week; there was a birthday party in her class and they passed out cupcakes.  She told her teacher that she wasn’t allowed to have it, so the teacher put it in a plastic bag and she brought it home to share.  I guess I’m going to need to find some vegan/gluten-free snacks for her to keep at school in situations like that for next year.  Probably for birthday parties and other events, too…

I’ve heard many people scoff the ideas that what we it doesn’t really change our behaviors or how we feel.  But you know what, give it a try for yourself.  Take two weeks and eat nothing but what The Good Lord gave us from the earth, and see how you feel.